Why People Fail and How You Can Succeed?

Have you failed at something before? Odds are, you have at some point in your life, even if you tried your absolute hardest. It happens to the best of us. Sometimes, successful people just fail, despite their heroic efforts. And while you might sit there and scratch your head, wondering why it didn’t work out for you, there’s likely a reason why it happened.

You might think it was from an environmental factor, like another company, or because the economy isn’t so great. And while these are possible answers, you may have been the reason for your own failure.

Often times, there are mental barriers that people unknowingly put up that can hold them back from succeed. These fatal mistakes can sink your ship fast and leave you treading in deep water. Make sure you aren’t falling victim to these malicious mistakes.

Unrealistic goals:

When people set their future goals, they’ll usually imagine something at the finish line, like a certain amount of money, a materialistic item (like a new house or car), or even a big achievement (like getting a Pulitzer Prize). You may think these things can help keep you motivated, but they can actually do the opposite.

Your mind is racing and thinking “I’m going to do this to get this, I’m going to get this to do this,” and it’s causing some major havoc. You’re completely missing the point! You should be working one step at a time in order to succeed. And part of success means you’re having a fulfilling life.

Plus, once you get that “thing,” what next? Are you just going to consider your goal accomplished and stop moving forward?

Instead of picturing a specific thing or object you’re working toward, imagine how you’ll feel once you reach your goal instead. You’ll feel full of pride and enlightenment and, most important, you’ll feel successful because you will be successful. And you’ll do whatever is necessary is order to get there.

And once you’ve met the goal, you can move right onto the next one. You’ll be eager to continue to thrive, since it produces such awesome feelings.

Letting fear take over:

It can be difficult to take a giant leap toward that risk. It isn’t easy and sure, you might fail. But what if you don’t? What if you thrive? The potential success that waits on the other side is enough to push you off the edge and take the risk. You can’t let fear take the wheel and determine your path in life. You have to overcome that fear and determine if the risk is worth it.

After all, what if you were afraid to leave your boring job, because you didn’t want to take a financial risk, and now you’ll never own your own business? It can be as simple as picking up the phone to call a possible client, even if they’ve already turned you down. You’re constantly moving forward in order keep yourself going – you can’t let fear stop you in your path.

You have to take these risks in order to achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself. Simple as that. Risks are necessary for success.

Develop the mindset that fear is a temporary feeling for you – and so is failure. If things don’t go your way or according to plan, that doesn’t mean everything has completely derailed. Your plan is still alive and kicking. You’ve just got to direct it back the right way. It’s a small bump in the road and you’ll jump that obstacle as you approach it. But that’s all it is – an obstacle. It’s not the end. You’ve got to keep going.

Being afraid of success

Just like people can be afraid of fear, there are people who are afraid of success, too. Let’s say you’ve achieved one of your top goals – getting a huge amount of income from your business really quickly. Well, what if that doesn’t make you happy like you thought it would? What if you don’t have the clients and recognition you thought would come along with it? Now what are you supposed to do? What if your family and friends started treating you differently? What if people had significantly higher and different expectations of you? What if you let everyone down? What if you can still fail and it’ll hurt even more? How will you bounce back from a failure now?

You could drive yourself crazy asking these kinds of questions. And it’s a surefire way to freaking out even the most motivated person. You’re headed right towards sabotaging yourself.

Here’s how you can get past that – you have to tell yourself that you will be happy, no matter what the circumstances. Instead of dedicating all of your focus to worrying about problems, focus on how great it’ll feel to succeed. It’s a feeling unlike any other.

Plus, you can help those around you succeed, too. From family members to friends, people will come to understand that you’re the go-to person for help, since you’ve already proven your methods to be successful. And you’ll get a great feeling when you help out those you love.

Unworkable timeline:

When you come up with a game plan, you probably want to execute it RIGHT. THIS. SECOND. But that isn’t the way to success. Remember the expression ‘slow and steady wins the race’? Yeah, that’s the mindset you’ve got to develop and maintain.

A lot of people make the mistake of severely overestimating what they can accomplish in a week’s time. They think Okay, I can just put everything else on hold for a week or two and bang out this plan.

But that isn’t really how things work, especially because then you underestimate what you should accomplish in a year. Everything starts getting all messed up and before you know it, you can’t make your timeline for longer than a week from right now.

Odds are, you’re trying to jam in too many actionable tasks into a short term schedule. Instead, these events should be evenly spaced out over a longer schedule.

Think about what this does to your motivation. When you set these unrealistic time limits for yourself, you probably aren’t going to meet them. And when you don’t meet them, you’re going to get discouraged. And when you get discouraged, you’re going to lose motivation. So you’re either going to fail or feel like you’ve failed. And that takes a huge toll on your entire process.

You want to set realistic goals and a timeline for yourself. This way, you’ll be helping yourself achieve what you want.

To avoid burning yourself out with an unrealistic timeline, create a list of everything you need to do in order to get to your goal – and we mean everything: activities, events, steps, training, everything. Then set up your schedule so there’s some extra room in between. If all of one day is going to be spent on a difficult task, switch to an easier task the next day. Your brain will appreciate the break. Try to limit yourself to 2-3 extremely difficult items a week. Either way, remember you’re on your way to success. There’s no rush – slow and steady!

Worrying, worrying, worry:

Face it – we all worry. We worry about things like bills and health and jobs. We worry about leaving one job for another. We worry about a major career change. We worry, worry, worry.

But worrying doesn’t change anything about the situation. The only thing worrying changes is your mindset. And when you keep worrying about problems or bumps you may run into, it can seriously discourage you and take you further away from your goal.

Let’s say you need to become an expert in a certain area before you can advance toward your goal. While you made some major progress in the beginning, now you’re kind of stuck and not getting any better at it. You start to worry that you’ve exceeded your knowledge. And you may start to panic that you won’t get any better. So what do you do? You give up.

When you’ve reached this point in the worrying stage, it’s time to take a step back and reflect back on what you were able to accomplish. It could be something small, like understanding a specific aspect you have been trying to comprehend for a while. But still – it’s an accomplishment worth celebrating! You’ve just got to have the belief that you’re getting somewhere, even when you aren’t physically moving. And keep in mind: Even when you stall, the engine is still running.

Even if you’ve fallen victim to some of these mistakes, you can still come back from them. In fact, you might have fallen victim to every single one of these mistakes. But if you’re still working toward your goal, you’re doing the right thing. Overcoming these mental barriers is key to being successful. And avoiding making the same mistakes over and over again in the future will ensure you’re on your way to success.

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